Potty Training Twins
If you have twins or children of a similar age you may feel that potty training them together may seem like a time-saver, but it doesn’t always work out that way, as your children may approach readiness at different times.
A key point to remember is that not all children are ready at the same time [...]
Potty Training Tips On Regression?
im a daycare provider. one child has been potty trained for 3 months and now is wetting and pooping himself. seems on purpose. any tips or reasons why?
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Toddlers often regress with potty training. Discuss the situation with his parents.
ReplySometimes children regress for attention.
ReplyIt could be for the negative attention they receive at home when they do not go, if they are not receiving enough positive attention- or, it could just be that they miss being the baby.
There could also be something going on at home that is stressful to the child. Stress can cause regression.
In addition to that, it could be that potty training suddenly stopped being enforced at home, and the child isn’t getting adequate help.
Whatever the case may be, try to make that child feel like a million dollars every time he or she uses the potty. Make a huge deal out of it, so that you can help the child to get over this stumbling block.
Also, try to give the child a little added attention throughout the day, if possible. It’s not easy, when you’re a daycare provider, to spend a lot of time trying to decode one child. I know, I worked in daycare for over a year. On days when I did have time to talk to each child a little bit, I’d try to ask about what’s going on at home, in little ways. Mostly, I’d ask him or her, “Did mommy make dinner last night? Did she make pizza? Was it yummy?”. You know, little things like that, that will open up a conversation. That way, if the child happened to inadvertently mention a potty training obstacle, I could help him to think of ways to get around that next time. Of course it doesn’t always work the way you want it to, since every child responds differently, but I would try. The main thing is to try to give positive reinforcement whenever the child uses the potty.
I would certainly discuss this problem with the parents of the child, and let them how you plan to turn this regression around, and make sure they are committed to doing their part from home. I’ve done this before as well, and I did actually have a couple of parents feel as though it was just fine, because their child was “still a baby”. That usually meant that they were not taking the child to the potty when he or she needed, and just let the child regress due to a lack of preparation on their part. It’s really sad when that happens, because you can really feel for the child who is basically taught from day one, that it doesn’t matter whether he or she succeeds or not. No child should be raised with that mentality. When I had to deal with parents who had that mentality, I would get excited, when talking with them about their child’s successes in daycare, and let them know how proud the child felt to have accomplished something so big as that. Sometimes parents just have a hard time identifying with the child’s emotion, and they think it doesn’t matter just because they are still so young.
I really hope that helps.
I’d guess the parent/parents have gotten lazy about it at home, and it’s carrying on to the daycare. Or if the parents insist it isn’t happening at home he maybe just looking for extra attention. You could try spending some extral time with him, or make him your special helper for the day when he goes potty etc. Good Luck!!!!
ReplyMy son does the same thing i believe it is because his Dad “breaks a lot of wind” and he finds that funny and copies but doesnt have the ability to tell between a wind and a poop and so we clean up stinky messes a lot
Replycan just be anxiety from leaving home. Or that he just might be ready. Talk to parents, see if anything at home has changed, parents getting divorced, death, new child etc…
ReplyMy child did that. He was mostly potty trained by two and half with some accidents with pee, but then he began reverting back to peeing and pooping in his diaper and that lasted about a week or two. I talked to him and told him that it was not a good thing and that it made mommy upset that he was doing that. I told him that he would begin getting punished if he kept pooping in his pants. And he didnt do it anymore. Actually, If I remember correctly he never has pooped his pants again. As for the child in your daycare, I cant say that is how its going to turn out for him because he isnt your child and you cant really threaten punishment. But you can talk to him and tell him that it made you so happy when he was using the potty, but that when he goes in his pants it makes you sad.
ReplyI am having trouble with my almost 3 year old, for a few months now. I have tried almost everything and nothing seems to be working. It all began last year when for the first time I had to make a trip and she stayed home with my husband, then a week later, we both left for a week and she stayed with her grandparents, a month later or less I had to make a trip for a week and took her with me but since I had to be on a diplomate study all day long I sent her to a kindergarten were my sister worked, and after school she went home with my sister I only saw her at night. I know that was a rough time for her! At he begingn of the year we had to move to another city and then came back and moved form home 2 more times… ever since she has changed a lot, she behaves negatively, and by now she pees and poops herself withour bothering her. Nevertheless we both work at home and we are with her all the time, perhaps that is what she recented the most… but I have tried everything, being angry, being sad, rewarding, cheers every time and even ignoring the fact… now we’ve com to the point where she doesn’t care if she is wet or dirty… I believe by now we are so stressed she can feel it she is a very smart girl and perhaps tht is what bothers me the most. She was trained within a day, she even asked for it at 2 years old! Please if somebody can help me and give me more ideas…
ReplyBrenda the important thing her is not to get angry at her. Spend some time with her, take a weekend off and spend it with her exclusively. Make her help you around the kitchen, play a sport. Encourage her to use the potty again as you done in the initial potty training.
The key points being;
- encourage them to reuse the potty
- show your approval when they are dry
- say it makes you sad when they soil themselves (but do not get angry).
There are some great material around that you can try, grab a few videos of cartoons etc that she may like (similar to once upon a potty) and relax. Once you relax it will be a lot easier on the both of you.
ReplyThanx a lot for your answer… You know I have tried all this… I started by being really sad and her answer was “don’t get sad mommy, look the (anything in her sight) the towel so pretty” as I did when she was upset… perhaps that is the problem she is really so smart that she knows what we are doing and what she is doing which makes it more difficult. Then I moved to angry, to take away what she wanted or not going to the amll, pool, playground. Even in the daycare they give her time out, they even took away her oustide play time but dodn’t work, the next day when I took her to the daycare I said remember to go potty so you can play outside today! and she said “I don’t want to play outside!” what do you answer to that????!!!
ReplyRight now I realized I can’t be punishing her forever, and taking away everything, so I ask her to go potty every 20 min, when she doesn’t want to go I ask her to come with me because I need to go… before we go outside, whenever we arrive someplace (home, my parents, etc) the problem is that if I don’t ask her she gets wet… And I am feeling her more insecure somehow, she wants to go to bed with me, wants me to hold her, to sing her, to be with her all the time… which isn’t like her, she was a very independent baby, never cried without me, I just don’t know…